{"id":120,"date":"2005-10-19T12:33:04","date_gmt":"2005-10-19T16:33:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/sweetpea\/2005\/10\/19\/girls-club\/"},"modified":"2006-04-28T01:15:45","modified_gmt":"2006-04-28T08:15:45","slug":"girls-club","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/sweetpea\/2005\/10\/19\/girls-club\/","title":{"rendered":"Girls Club"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a name=\"a359\"><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Two of the three other\u00a0associates on my litigation\u00a0team are young women\u00a0(actually,\u00a0the majority of the associates in my office are young women).\u00a0 They&#8217;re both funny, cute, and quirky.\u00a0 I adore them.\u00a0 Let&#8217;s call them A1 and A2.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Last week,\u00a0the three of us\u00a0chipped in to buy\u00a0SP flowers for her birthday.\u00a0 It didn&#8217;t occur to any of us to ask the one older (by over\u00a0twenty years) male associate (A3) on our team\u00a0if he wanted to contribute. . . or\u00a0to even inform him of our plans.\u00a0 At least it\u00a0didn&#8217;t\u00a0until he asked that we include him on future gifts to SP or the JP&#8217;s.\u00a0\u00a0Worse yet,\u00a0my\u00a0initial reaction (which I thankfully kept to myself) was, &#8220;Oh, but it was just from the Girls!&#8221;\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>He&#8217;s all too often unintentionally left out on that basis.\u00a0 A1, A2 and I\u00a0have different interests than A3, we spend a\u00a0lot more time\u00a0socializing\u00a0with each other\u00a0than we do with him,\u00a0we talk and gossip and look to each other for\u00a0advice and support.\u00a0 I consider them friends as well as co-workers (as I do\u00a0most of the associates in this office).\u00a0\u00a0A1 pointed out recently that we&#8217;re\u00a0probably guilty of reverse discrimination.\u00a0\u00a0I think she&#8217;s right.\u00a0\u00a0It&#8217;s sadly and surprisingly easy to thoughtlessly discriminate\u00a0and to use friendship to justify it, all the while ignoring its insidious side.<\/p>\n<p>*Hangs head in shame.*\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Of course, it&#8217;s more complicated than I&#8217;m making it out to be.\u00a0 There are personalities\u00a0and group dynamics involved, but it boils down to making the person who doesn&#8217;t fit the mold of a young associate feel left out.\u00a0 As a young asian woman in what is generally a white male dominated field, I really should know better.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Two of the three other\u00a0associates on my litigation\u00a0team are young women\u00a0(actually,\u00a0the majority of the associates in my office are young women).\u00a0 They&#8217;re both funny, cute, and quirky.\u00a0 I adore them.\u00a0 Let&#8217;s call them A1 and A2.\u00a0 Last week,\u00a0the three of us\u00a0chipped in to buy\u00a0SP flowers for her birthday.\u00a0 It didn&#8217;t occur to any of us [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":110,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[171,155,174],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-120","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-friends-family-and-everyone-in-between","category-lawyering","category-uncategorized"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/sweetpea\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/120","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/sweetpea\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/sweetpea\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/sweetpea\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/110"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/sweetpea\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=120"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/sweetpea\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/120\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/sweetpea\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=120"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/sweetpea\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=120"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/sweetpea\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=120"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}