Of course there is the obvious: being gay means your’e attracted to somebody of the same sex (or simply that you’re happy, depending on your generation).<\/p>\n
However, there are other things that happen when your’e gay (the modern definition, not your grandfather’s definition). For example:<\/p>\n
Last night Randy and I got together for dinner with a friend of his that he meant on-line (prior to meeting me). They’d gone on a few dates, participated in some kissing, but then decided to be friends. Since I’ve known Randy, they’ve only gotten together one other time (without me). And that’s fine.<\/p>\n
And that’s also how I think gay couples differ from straight couples. It’s not uncommon to remain friends – even close friends – with your exes. And that’s usually okay with the new partners. I mean, Randy is still best friends with his ex. In fact, I met his ex only a week after meeting Randy and we have hung out with him nearly every weekend since then. Hell, I got together with Randy’s ex last Thanksgiving while Randy was in Virginia with his family.<\/p>\n
Randy has also met some of my exes. In fact, when we met, he had just ended stopped dating a guy I was friends with (yet I didn’t know Randy was my friend’s ex until after we were dating for a week or two). Anyway, my friend was even encouraging me to date Randy since he was such a nice guy (my friend’s loss was my gain).<\/p>\n
It all just seems so simple and so uncomplicated. It’s not an issue. Yet most straight guys I know get jealous when they’re girlfriends are still in contact with their exes. And most straight female friends I have get jealous of their boyfriends remaining friends with an ex girlfriend (though, it also seems very rare that many straight men remain friends with ex girlfriends in the first place).<\/p>\n
But in the gay world, it seems that nearly every guy I know is still close with an ex or two (or more). Of course, that’s not always the case (I can provide one or two examples from my own past). I don’t know, maybe I’m just talking out of my ass (verbal farting?) but that’s my observation and I’m sticking to it.<\/p>\n
What do you think?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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