{"id":1339,"date":"2007-08-08T10:20:45","date_gmt":"2007-08-08T14:20:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/snarl\/2007\/08\/08\/the-life-of-a-married-man\/"},"modified":"2007-08-08T10:24:22","modified_gmt":"2007-08-08T14:24:22","slug":"the-life-of-a-married-man","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/snarl\/2007\/08\/08\/the-life-of-a-married-man\/","title":{"rendered":"The Life of a Married Man"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>While Randy and I were in Japan last year, I ended up tagging along to a business dinner with him and his colleagues. In fact, that was where I ate a scorpion.<\/p>\n<p>In San Francisco last month, I joined him on business dinners at least 3 or 4 of the nights we were there.<\/p>\n<p>And now, for the second time in Boston this year, I attended a business dinner with Randy and some of his colleagues. I guess it&#8217;s official now: I&#8217;m a trophy wife.<\/p>\n<p>I suppose, then, that it&#8217;s only inevitable that Randy and I are now seriously talking about living together. In fact, the way it looks now (thanks to my flexible month-to-month lease) I will be moving out of my humble city bachelor pad for a DINK* life in (eek) Somerville sometime in early fall (October).<\/p>\n<p>It really does make sense when you think about it. On average, we spend the night at each other&#8217;s place at least 5 nights per week. I&#8217;ve got clothes, a razor blade, a tooth brush, and shoes at both places. Besides, both of our monthly expenses will go down (a lot) by shacking up and splitting costs.<\/p>\n<p>Oh yeah &#8211; and then there&#8217;s that whole love thing, too. That also appears to be playing a factor.<\/p>\n<p>Of course we both have slight reservations. His concern, I think, is the possible loss of alone time. He&#8217;s become accustomed to living by himself. But, since he works from home, he&#8217;ll still get the place to himself every day. Plus, he travels a lot &#8211; which provides him with even more alone time (often more alone time than he wants).<\/p>\n<p>As for me, my concern is location. I&#8217;ve always liked living in the heart of things. I like my amenities within walking distance. True, I lived in Salem for a while (which at just 16 miles from Boston is a whole different world), but while in Salem, we lived in the heart of the downtown; close to trains, shops, restaurants, and friends.<\/p>\n<p>But considering I&#8217;ve spent at least half of my weeks over the past year at Randy&#8217;s place, perhaps my &#8220;need&#8221; to be in the heart of things isn&#8217;t as strong as it was as a single man. It&#8217;s definitely a preference, but it&#8217;s apparently not a requirement. Besides, I&#8217;ll still have the access to everything the city has to offer, it&#8217;ll just a bit less convenient.<\/p>\n<p>Oh, lord &#8211; I&#8217;m turning into Lucy Ricardo when she and Ricky moved to Connecticut.<\/p>\n<p><p>*Dual Income, No Kids<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>While Randy and I were in Japan last year, I ended up tagging along to a business dinner with him and his colleagues. In fact, that was where I ate a scorpion. In San Francisco last month, I joined him on business dinners at least 3 or 4 of the nights we were there. And [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":74,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1339","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/snarl\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1339","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/snarl\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/snarl\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/snarl\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/74"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/snarl\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1339"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/snarl\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1339\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/snarl\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1339"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/snarl\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1339"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/snarl\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1339"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}