{"id":1236,"date":"2010-02-01T16:20:08","date_gmt":"2010-02-01T20:20:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/fensterm\/?p=1236"},"modified":"2010-02-01T16:56:04","modified_gmt":"2010-02-01T20:56:04","slug":"grief-in-the-age-of-the-social-network-appliance","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/fensterm\/2010\/02\/01\/grief-in-the-age-of-the-social-network-appliance\/","title":{"rendered":"Grief in the age of the social network appliance."},"content":{"rendered":"

She’s twenty something and I’m sixty something, but I follow her. She knows I’m there. It doesn’t spook her. We’re on twitter. Sindi was bored, bored, bored. This video made her a little homesick for Vancouver<\/a>. \u00a0Then:<\/p>\n

You always think you have all the time in the world..then someone is ripped from your life. Rip doll \ud83d\ude41<\/strong><\/span>9:20 PM Jan 30th<\/strong><\/span> <\/strong><\/a>from <\/strong>TweetDeck<\/strong><\/a><\/span><\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Jenny was twenty something too. She didn’t want to wear a seat belt. Sindi tweets disbelief. Three hours later Sindi went from ‘super sad’ \u00a0to \u00a0‘super pissed off’ – a little\u00a0K\u00fcbler-Ross thing going on. I didn’t mention it to Sindi at the time. Now I have<\/a> – twofold<\/a>. I like to tell people in grief about K\u00fcbler-Ross. It feels like helping. I don’t know if it is.<\/p>\n

Sindi asked us all to please wear a seat belt. It won’t bring Jenny back, but it’ll make Sindi feel better. Be safe, if not for yourself, for Sindi and the Jenny that lingers within her.<\/p>\n

my girl is still signed onto yahoo messenger… sent her a message, knowing I wont get a reply. Hoping it’s all just a bad dream..it’s not.<\/strong><\/span>7:51 AM Jan 31st<\/strong><\/span> <\/strong><\/a>from web<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Sindi had a great deal of trouble sleeping. \u00a0She was awake well into the morning.<\/p>\n

Laying in bed..crying…wishing I was holding into her. This is something I cannot shake.<\/strong><\/span>9:17 AM Jan 31st<\/strong><\/span> <\/strong>from <\/strong>TweetDeck<\/strong><\/a><\/span><\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

“…holding into her.” \u00a0Typo or intriguing variation. Freudian in a good way.<\/p>\n

So..Um… I’m just supposed to go to bed? Put my ipod down and get on with my life? \ud83d\ude41<\/strong><\/span>9:36 AM Jan 31st<\/strong><\/span> <\/strong>from <\/strong>TweetDeck<\/strong><\/a><\/span><\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Eventually weariness prevailed to some extent. After fitful on-and-off sleep:<\/p>\n

Shock is starting to fade. Reality is set in…my girl is gone \ud83d\ude41 Keep going to my phone to look for texts from her…there is none.<\/strong><\/span>about 13 hours ago<\/strong><\/span> <\/strong><\/a>from web<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Sindi is a digital native<\/a> – a loved one dies and she suffers on the net. Netizens \u00a0do their best to console her. I’m a netizen, but an immigrant – a very experienced<\/a> immigrant. \u00a0Part of my accent is to worry about her privacy. I’m so touched by her that I had to share it more widely. But I’ve been cryptic about some details and if she feels I’ve made her grief too<\/strong> public, i’ll remove or alter it. I do hope she feels good about it though, because this post will complement nicely my somewhat overdue post about recent BGLT activism in Massachusetts.<\/p>\n

Jenny, I’m not a smart man, but I know what love is. \u00a0 \u00a0 –<\/strong><\/span>Forrest Gump<\/strong><\/span> <\/strong><\/a><\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

I’m a very smart man, but I’m not sure I know what love is. \u00a0 \u00a0 –<\/strong><\/span>the guy who makes windows<\/a><\/strong><\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

I believe Forrest and as much as he suffered for it, I believe his love for Jenny was worth it. I believe Sindi and as much as she suffers for it, I believe her love for Jenny was worth it.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

She’s twenty something and I’m sixty something, but I follow her. She knows I’m there. It doesn’t spook her. We’re on twitter. Sindi was bored, bored, bored. This video made her a little homesick for Vancouver. \u00a0Then: You always think you have all the time in the world..then someone is ripped from your life. Rip […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":168,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1236","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/fensterm\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1236","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/fensterm\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/fensterm\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/fensterm\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/168"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/fensterm\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1236"}],"version-history":[{"count":16,"href":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/fensterm\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1236\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1252,"href":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/fensterm\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1236\/revisions\/1252"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/fensterm\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1236"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/fensterm\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1236"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/fensterm\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1236"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}