{"id":9911,"date":"2008-09-11T20:54:17","date_gmt":"2008-09-12T01:54:17","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/?p=9911"},"modified":"2011-08-05T14:53:20","modified_gmt":"2011-08-05T18:53:20","slug":"the-lipstick-lynch-mob-and-the-girl-who-cried-wolf","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/2008\/09\/11\/the-lipstick-lynch-mob-and-the-girl-who-cried-wolf\/","title":{"rendered":"the Lipstick Lynch Mob and the Girl Who Cried Wolf"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/files\/2008\/09\/hangmang_3.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-9917\" src=\"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/files\/2008\/09\/hangmang_3.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"46\" height=\"54\" \/><\/a> <strong><em>O<\/em><\/strong>ver the last twenty years, I&#8217;ve often professed and confessed that &#8220;<em>the average woman is considerably more mature emotionally than the average male<\/em>.&#8221;\u00a0 The current campaign season has, however, reminded me of another point I frequently make: &#8220;<em>politics will change you more than you&#8217;ll ever change politics<\/em>.&#8221;\u00a0 The confluence of the two maxims is on mind today, after seeing the silly firestorm over Barack Obama&#8217;s &#8220;lipstick on a pig&#8221; remark yesterday (<em>e.g.<\/em>, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.npr.org\/templates\/story\/story.php?storyId=94481288\">npr links<\/a>, and <a href=\"http:\/\/www.washingtonpost.com\/wp-dyn\/content\/article\/2008\/09\/09\/AR2008090903531.html?hpid=topnews\"><em>WashPost<\/em> coverage<\/a>), especially in the wake of the McCain <a href=\"http:\/\/rosettasister.wordpress.com\/2008\/09\/10\/as-obama-drops-in-the-polls-the-30-second-tv-spot-says-hell-try-to-destroy-her-sarah-palin\/\">wolf-pack ad<\/a>, which tries to inoculate his vice presidential candidate from criticism by warning that Obama &#8220;will try to destroy&#8221; Sara Palin (see <a href=\"http:\/\/politicalticker.blogs.cnn.com\/2008\/09\/10\/mccain-ad-paints-dems-as-wolfpack-hunting-palin\/\"><em>CNN<\/em> coverage<\/a>).\u00a0 It has all led me to sadly conclude:<\/p>\n<ul style=\"padding-left: 30px\">\n<li>In the political realm, far too many women have let politics lower their <a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/s\/104-9212552-8069535?ie=UTF8&amp;keywords=Emotional%20Quotient&amp;tag=acronymfinder-20&amp;index=blended&amp;link_code=qs\">EQ<\/a> &#8212; and far too many political strategists and candidates of both genders are exploiting that fact. And,<\/li>\n<li>As happens on many issues, as soon as a good man (especially a liberal) is accused of sexism for something he said, he waffles and either retracts the statement or tries to give it an innocent, innocuous spin &#8212; which allows the virus of false accusations to spread and the meaning of sexism to be distorted and co-opted as a political weapon.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 60px\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/cyber.law.harvard.edu\/blogs\/static\/ethicalesq\/wolfdudeneg.gif\" alt=\"\" \/> Sexism &#8212; <em>real<\/em> sexism (see <a href=\"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/2008\/05\/20\/trumping-reality-with-the-sexism-card\/\">our post<\/a> &#8220;trumping reality with the sexism card&#8221;) &#8212; is far too important a concept and serious a vice to be devalued in order to gain political advantage.<\/p>\n<p>Despite considering myself a liberal, I&#8217;ve complained for years about the leftist and feminist habit of seeing sexism in far too many situations (<em>e.g<\/em>., <a href=\"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/2006\/11\/25\/puritans-prudes-professional-picklepusses\/\">here<\/a>).\u00a0 But, it&#8217;s clear that folks on the right are also going to milk the sexism cow for all its worth in Election 2008.\u00a0 Just as women should have been insulted and felt diminished when Hillary Clinton and her supporters over-played the sexism card in the primaries (prior <a href=\"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/2008\/05\/20\/trumping-reality-with-the-sexism-card\/\">post<\/a>), women &#8212; and men who believe in gender equality &#8212; should be insulted by the McCain campaign&#8217;s constant cry of sexism now that they are wooing Clinton voters and have a woman on their ticket.\u00a0 Maureen <a href=\"http:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2008\/09\/03\/opinion\/03dowd.html\">Dowd got it right<\/a> last week:<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 90px\">&#8220;Hillary cried sexism to cover up her incompetent management of her campaign, and now Republicans have picked up that trick. But when you use sexism as an across-the-board shield for any legitimate question, you only hurt women. And that\u2019s just another splash of reality.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 60px\">As <em>f\/k\/a<\/em> <a href=\"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/2006\/11\/25\/puritans-prudes-professional-picklepusses\/\">said in 2006<\/a> about feminist neo-puritanism:<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 90px\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial;font-size: x-small\"> Being seen as thin-skinned, humorless proponents of\u00a0iffy legal analysis and bad attitudes is scarcely the way to win over the hearts or the minds of those who might still want to perpetuate the unwarranted stereotypes.\u00a0 Indeed, it might just lose you a few allies or make them wary to come to your assistance\u00a0every time\u00a0you \u201ccry wolf.\u201d\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0Even the most open-minded and fair people\u00a0can find it rather difficult to think of whiners (and those who insist on special protection) as equals.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&#8211; beneath the fold, you&#8217;ll find much more, including \u00a0 <a href=\"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/files\/2008\/09\/header_2.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-9923\" src=\"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/files\/2008\/09\/header_2.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"83\" height=\"30\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<ul style=\"padding-left: 30px\">\n<li><strong><em>Corralling the Lipstick Lynch Mob<\/em><\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong><em>Carly Fiorina Cries Wolf<\/em><\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong><em>a few lupine haiku<br \/>\n<\/em><\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\"><!--more--><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/files\/2008\/09\/header.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-9913\" src=\"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/files\/2008\/09\/header.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"99\" height=\"36\" \/><\/a> <strong><em>Let&#8217;s Corral the Lipstick Lynch Mob. <\/em><\/strong><strong><em>W<\/em><\/strong>hen he used the term &#8220;lipstick on a pig&#8221; <a href=\"http:\/\/www.npr.org\/templates\/story\/story.php?storyId=94481288\">yesterday<\/a>, Barack Obama was <em>not <\/em>calling Sarah Palin a pig. Period.\u00a0\u00a0 Of course, he had to know that the oft-used phrase would <em>now<\/em> be even more powerful and wry because it evokes or alludes to Palin&#8217;s newly-famous soccer-mom-lipstick joke.\u00a0 The cosmetic connection to Palin makes the old cliche (which he and John McCain and thousands of other politicians have used before) tickle and resonate more than ever with his supporters. That verbal link helps make the charge stick that the McCain campaign is trying to disguise the same old, bad ideas.\u00a0 But, that doesn&#8217;t make it sexist, nor does it mean he&#8217;s being mean to Gov. Palin and calling her names.<\/p>\n<p>Juxtaposition is very often at the core of humor and of debate.\u00a0 You score points by turning your opponent&#8217;s language back on him or her.\u00a0 There was nothing to apologize for and nothing to spin when Barack used the newest L-word &#8212; and that is what he should have said, instead of claiming blissful ignorance and innocence, and acting like his own lipstick metaphor now exists in a vacuum in Election 2008.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 60px\"><a href=\"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/files\/2008\/09\/hangmang_2.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-9918\" src=\"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/files\/2008\/09\/hangmang_2.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"51\" height=\"60\" \/><\/a> <strong>No More Lipstick Lynching: <\/strong>McCain&#8217;s new Palin-defender-in-chief, Jane Swift (not related to the boat of the same name), is wrong that the lipstick phrase was an insult and forbidden as sexist because Palin is the only candidate in this race who wears lipstick. So was Heather Higgins, chair of the board of the Independent Women&#8217;s Forum, wrong yesterday on the <a href=\"http:\/\/wamu.org\/programs\/dr\/diane_rehm\/\">Diane Rehm Show<\/a>, when she said that Obama&#8217;s statement &#8220;comes across as calling her a pig.&#8221; (&#8220;<a href=\"http:\/\/wamu.org\/programs\/dr\/08\/09\/10.php#19211\">Governor Sara Palin and the Media<\/a>,&#8221;\u00a0 September 10, 2008)<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 60px\">Obama advisor Anita Dunn was correct that &#8220;This phony lecture on gender sensitivity is the height of cynicism.&#8221;\u00a0 Indeed, behind the scenes, I bet the strong and witty Sarah Palin smiled and nodded her appreciation when she heard Obama turning the lipstick theme back on her; she might have even been embarrassed that their campaign staff chose the silly tactic of playing the sexism card so shamelessly.<\/p>\n<p>We shouldn&#8217;t impose &#8212; and no self-confident, strong woman would want &#8212; a sexism rule that prohibits any candidate or campaign running against a woman from referring in a negative or joking way to<em> any <\/em>item, activity, or role that is closely tied to women &#8212; not even if it is strongly linked to a particular female candidate.\u00a0 Context and intent matter, and like I <a href=\"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/2008\/05\/20\/trumping-reality-with-the-sexism-card\/\">argued last May<\/a>:<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 90px\">[S]exism does not exist unless the actor\/speaker has hatred or contempt for the other gender, or believes that one gender is superior to the other, or is attempting to maintain or impose stereotypes of masculinity on men or femininity on women in order to limit their freedom by restricting the gender to particular roles.\u00a0 Indeed, although it can be annoying and juvenile, even gender-joshing &#8212; which these days is very often aimed at males &#8212; is not sexism (absent the requisite hatred, superiority complex, or intent to stifle gender freedoms).<em><\/em><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/files\/2008\/05\/queen-spades.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"45\" height=\"70\" \/> . . <a href=\"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/files\/2008\/09\/lg_promo.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-9914\" src=\"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/files\/2008\/09\/lg_promo.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"50\" height=\"72\" \/><\/a> <strong><em>Carly Fiorina Cries Wolf<\/em><\/strong>.\u00a0 I was quite surprised last week to discover that someone as <a href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Carly_Fiorina\">accomplished<\/a> as <a href=\"http:\/\/www.carlyfiorina.com\/\">Carly Fiorina<\/a> holds a stacked deck of sexism cards and is the house dealer for the McCain\/Palin campaign.\u00a0 Fiorina&#8217;s role as Sexism Maven became clear during the Republican National Convention last week, and was on display at the <a href=\"http:\/\/www.charlierose.com\/shows\/2008\/09\/03\/1\/live-coverage-of-the-republican-national-convention\">Charlie Rose show<\/a> on September 3, 2008.\u00a0 Right after Sarah Palin gave her impressive acceptance speech, Charlie brought together a group of pundits and campaign operatives as part of his &#8220;Live Coverage of the Convention.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\">About 23 minutes into <a href=\"http:\/\/www.charlierose.com\/shows\/2008\/09\/03\/1\/live-coverage-of-the-republican-national-convention\">this video<\/a> of the show, Fiorina begins a five-minute interview. She had given a press conference on the issue of sexism in the campaign earlier in the day and was clearly prepared to speak on the topic.\u00a0 She quickly told Charlie that the treatment of both Hillary Clinton and Sarah Palin has been &#8220;outrageous&#8221; and &#8220;I think we&#8217;ve had enough.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\">Let&#8217;s look at a few of her explanatory statements, with each followed by a reaction by me (plus a few haiku from our poet friends sprinkled in):<\/p>\n<ul style=\"padding-left: 30px\">\n<li>Fiorina set the stage by saying &#8220;I think women are now finely-tuned to detect sexism in the way women are talked about.&#8221;\u00a0 It seems to me that there is a fine line between &#8220;finely-tuned&#8221; and &#8220;over-sensitized,&#8221; &#8220;paranoid,&#8221; or &#8220;loaded for bear [or wolf],&#8221; and the McCain campaign has crossed that line. [Disclaimer: Yes, I support Obama, but I was not the least bit reluctant to <a href=\"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/2008\/07\/15\/the-new-yorker-cover-obama-satire-and-the-pc-police\/\">take him to task<\/a> in July for the analogous Politically Correct reaction of his campaign to the New Yorker cover.]<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul style=\"padding-left: 30px\">\n<li>When Charlie asks her &#8220;What makes it outrageous, where is the line?,&#8221; Fiorina&#8217;s first example was:<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 90px\"><a href=\"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/files\/2008\/09\/wolfdude.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-9915\" src=\"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/files\/2008\/09\/wolfdude.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"40\" height=\"71\" \/><\/a> CF: &#8220;Well, for example, when someone calls the Governor of Alaska &#8216;the cheerleader from the West,&#8217; that&#8217;s sexist, just as it was sexist with Hillary Clinton to say that she reminded men of their first wife, that&#8217;s sexist.'&#8221;<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 60px\">My First reaction, is: Give me a break, how trivial can you get?\u00a0 This doesn&#8217;t even merit a response. My second\u00a0 (if you insist on a response) is: Throughout the history of our nation and its presidential campaigns, the VP candidate and in office is indeed expected to be a cheerleader for the person at the top of the ticket. (see, for example, this <a href=\"Vice-presidential candidates are part cheerleader, part litmus test and rarely a factor when it comes to who wins in November, political experts say.\">op\/ed piece<\/a> from July, long before Sarah Palin was even a gleam in McCain&#8217;s eye; and <a href=\"http:\/\/books.google.com\/books?id=M7CqPV_wHKgC&amp;pg=PA297&amp;lpg=PA297&amp;dq=%22Vice+President%22+Mondale+cheerleader&amp;source=web&amp;ots=iv6UdIHa46&amp;sig=Qltqe6A4at3sCCWri9ehVs9XLUo&amp;hl=en&amp;sa=X&amp;oi=book_result&amp;resnum=8&amp;ct=result\">this book<\/a>, which describes Fritz Mondale calling then Vice President George H. W. Bush a cheerleader).\u00a0 Third: As he proudly states in his <a href=\"http:\/\/www.whitehouse.org\/administration\/georgew.asp\">White House Biography<\/a>, President George W. Bush was in fact an actual cheerleader while in college. Fourth: Are we supposed to stay away from the word simply because Sarah Palin is the sort of attractive, athletic, out-going woman who is so often admired when they play the role of cheerleader for a sports team? Or, because a lot of educated women look down their noses on cheerleaders?<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 60px\">Similarly, as for the &#8220;reminded of his first wife&#8221; complaint: What if that really was happening, why can&#8217;t it be mentioned?\u00a0 Surely, if a male candidate reminded a lot of women of their first husband (or a childhood priest), it could and should be mentioned without the slightest complaint of sexism. Should we say &#8220;of their first spouse&#8221; when it&#8217;s a woman?\u00a0 Are we supposed to ignore the fact that female spouses are called wives?\u00a0 This complaint is simply silly and degrading to the entire notion of sexism and gender equality.<\/p>\n<p>retreating glacier\u2013<br \/>\nhow long since we\u2019ve heard<br \/>\nthe black wolf\u2019s song<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 60px\">\u2026\u2026\u2026 by [Alaskan] <a href=\"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/2005\/04\/23\/billie-wilson-archive\/\">Billie Wilson<\/a> &#8211; <em><a href=\"http:\/\/www.redmoonpress.com\/catalog\/product_info.php?cPath=28&amp;products_id=58\"><em>dust of summers: RMA 2007<\/em><\/a><\/em> (Red Moon Press, 2008); orig. pub. <em>Modern Haiku<\/em> 38:1<\/p>\n<ul style=\"padding-left: 30px\">\n<li><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/cyber.law.harvard.edu\/blogs\/static\/ethicalesq\/wolfdudeneg.gif\" alt=\"\" \/> Here&#8217;s Fiorina&#8217;s next example of &#8220;outrageous&#8221; sexism aimed at Gov. Palin, and the one that would seem to go directly to her qualification to be Vice President:<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 90px\">&#8220;It&#8217;s sexist any time the experience and the track record of women is dismissed and women are somehow described as some kind of Show Horse instead of a workhorse.\u00a0 I think it&#8217;s very legitimate to have a debate about relevant experience, but honestly I think it&#8217;s dismissive of a woman to say that a man who has been a one-time, one-term U.S. Senator and has never made an executive decision in his life, has more experience to be President of the United States than a woman who has made many executive decisions in her life is qualified to be Vice President of the United States.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 90px\">&#8220;. . . what is sexist is to simply dismiss the experience of this woman as inadequate or irrelevant, it is both relevant and adequate.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 60px\">For my money (and psyche), Ms. Fiorina surely doth protest too much and sounds like she wants the scales weighted heavily in favor of female candidates (or at least hers).\u00a0 Simply imagine that John McCain had chosen <em>a man with exactly<\/em> the same political experience as Sarah Palin.\u00a0 Now, imagine what the opposing party and some pundits would have surely said.\u00a0 That&#8217;s right: &#8220;He does not seem to have the kind of experience that should put him one (old) heartbeat away from the presidency.&#8221;\u00a0 Whether executive experience is what is important (and on point), and whether a former small-town mayor and short-term Govenor of Alaska has dealt sufficiently with the kinds of issues important if you are suddenly President, would and should be part of any campaign, no matter the gender of the VP candidate.\u00a0 Fiorina and her lynch mob want to make that debate irrelevant and off limits simply because Palin is a woman. Of course, it&#8217;s really simply because she is their candidate.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 120px\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman,Times,Serif\"><span style=\"font-family: Geneva,Arial,Sans-Serif;font-size: x-small\">winter nears \u2013<br \/>\nin the dog\u2019s eyes<br \/>\nthe wolf<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 120px\">&#8230;. by (Alaskan) Billie Wilson &#8211; <em><a href=\"http:\/\/www.theheronsnest.com\/haiku\/0502v2324\/thn_va.c4.html\">The Heron&#8217;s Nest<\/a><\/em> (1st Runner Up, Readers&#8217; Choice 2002)<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 120px\">\n<ul style=\"padding-left: 30px\">\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/files\/2008\/09\/wolfdude_2_2.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-9916\" src=\"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/files\/2008\/09\/wolfdude_2_2.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"40\" height=\"74\" \/><\/a> Fiorina then went on to describe what she calls &#8220;the most sexist thing of all&#8221;\u00a0 &#8212; &#8220;that it is questioned whether she is a good mother although no one ever questions whether a man who also had children and ambition is a good father.&#8221;\u00a0 This might come the closest to a valid claim of sexism, with a big <em>if<\/em> &#8212; If those raising the question considered themselves superior to women, hated them, or were trying to keep women in certain gender-specific roles.\u00a0 That does not, however, seem to be the case.\u00a0 From what I have heard and read it is mostly mothers with kids and jobs asking that question, because they know how hard it is to simply hold a 40-hour a week job or a run-of-the-mill salaried professional position and still be a mother.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 60px\">It seems to me that a similar question <em>would<\/em> be asked of a man who claimed to be the primary child-care-giver in his household, had been doing a very demanding job, and had a special-needs newborn at home, plus a few more kids, and then signed on for a gruelling cross-country national electoral campaign on behalf of The Family Values Party.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 60px\">The fact that Gov. Palin was asked the question should be seen as an opportunity to explain how a modern family can work, how a woman can have a top political office and either continue to be a main provider of hands-on care for her children, or appropriately choose to hand that job over to her spouse and others.\u00a0 In America, the reality is that the mother spends the most time caring for the children in the vast majority of families. Branding the people asking this question sexists and thereby cutting off discussion and debate seems foolhardy, if you want to help our society move toward that goal.\u00a0 It&#8217;s also a good chance to say to any &#8220;Family Values&#8221; candidate or one putting the spotlight on his children, &#8220;Hey, Mr. Candidate, just how good of a parent are you?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/files\/2008\/09\/sheep.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-9922\" src=\"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/files\/2008\/09\/sheep-300x190.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"79\" height=\"49\" \/><\/a> <em>Finally re Fiorina<\/em>: Despite &#8212; or because &#8212; I&#8217;m a big fan of his, I have to ask Charlie Rose (and all the other men around his table that night, Mark Halperin, David Brooks, Al Hunt, Charlie Cook, and Byron York,):\u00a0 <em>Why did\/do you give Carly Fiorina such a pass on her claims of outrageous sexism? <\/em> Would you have acquiesced to any man making such extreme accusations and outrageous claims on any other topic, when there are so many reasonable or alternative explanations?\u00a0\u00a0 This looks like an example of how easily we&#8217;ve all allowed ourselves to be penned in &#8212; like sheep, not wolves &#8212; on a set of issues favored by the successful, educated, professional women with whom we make our lives.\u00a0 Is it <a href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Lysistrata\">Lysistrata<\/a>-phobia?\u00a0 Are you &#8220;being a gentleman,&#8221; the way condescending men did to mollify their otherwise-subservient women throughout all of human history?\u00a0 This curious mind wants to know.\u00a0 Gender equality for interviewees goes both ways, doesn&#8217;t it?<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 60px\"><a href=\"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/files\/2008\/09\/sheep.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-9922\" src=\"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/files\/2008\/09\/sheep-300x190.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"36\" height=\"33\" \/><\/a><strong><em> update<\/em><\/strong> (11:45 PM): Charlie Rose and his guests are back at it tonight, in a &#8220;<a href=\"http:\/\/www.charlierose.com\/shows\/2008\/9\/11\/1\/a-discussion-about-the-2008-presidential-election\">discussion of the Presidential Election<\/a>.&#8221;\u00a0 Bob Schieffer says it sure sounded like Obama was calling Palin a pig, and though he gives Barack the benefit of the doubt, Obama should never had said &#8220;lipstick on a pig.&#8221;\u00a0 Jonathan Alter says, if you were there you know Obama did not mean that, but he still should not have said it.\u00a0 Sigh.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/cyber.law.harvard.edu\/blogs\/static\/ethicalesq\/pigblackflip.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"51\" height=\"30\" \/> &#8230;\u00a0 To conclude, and at the risk of being called a Male Chauvinist Pig and banished by some of my very best friends, I want to summarize: The minority of women who want to be treated with special kid gloves because of their gender are living in the wrong century.\u00a0 Ditto those who see sexism behind every opposing argument, tough question, or undesirable result.\u00a0 They shouldn&#8217;t expect the rest of the nation to constantly tread on egg shells because they are feigning &#8212; or are actually still afflicted &#8212; with easily-bruised egos or readily-shocked sensibilities.\u00a0 Wanting such special rules and protection is not very becoming a group of equals.\u00a0 Of course, the Lipstick Lynch Mob that makes such demands purely for political gain can be proud: they&#8217;re just as hypocritical and detestable as the big boys.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\"><strong><em>update<\/em><\/strong> (September 14, 2008):\u00a0 Law <a href=\"http:\/\/althouse.blogspot.com\/2008\/09\/how-disrespectful.html\">Prof. Ann Althouse<\/a>, in a posting yesterday focused on McCain&#8217;s &#8220;How Disrespectful Ad&#8221; (which she seems to like as effective campaigning), reflects &#8220;But I want to talk about sexism. Is this ad playing on the notion that women should be treated with special respect?&#8221;\u00a0 Ann argues (correctly): &#8220;[T]hat notion offends me. If a woman is going to seek great political power, she must be scrutinized and attacked just as harshly as a power-seeking man.&#8221;\u00a0 She adds:<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 60px\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/files\/2008\/05\/queen-spades.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"31\" height=\"49\" \/> &#8220;You shouldn&#8217;t be able to get away with the contradictory arguments that a woman is capable of handling the presidency and a woman must be accorded special respect. You shouldn&#8217;t, but you probably will, and I can certainly see why you&#8217;re trying. I just hope it doesn&#8217;t work on me.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>afterwords<\/strong><\/em> (September 16, 2008): Linguist Geoffrey Nunberg makes a lot of sense today in his <em>Fresh Air<\/em> commentary &#8220;<a href=\"http:\/\/people.ischool.berkeley.edu\/~nunberg\/lipstick.html\">Lipstick on My Choler<\/a> (Or, Did You Call Me a Pig?)&#8221;\u00a0 (<a href=\"http:\/\/www.npr.org\/templates\/story\/story.php?storyId=94665918&amp;surl=http:\/\/wamu.org\/programs\/fresh_air\/&amp;f=module-FA\">listen here<\/a> to the 5-minute podcast from NPR).\u00a0 As Fresh Air notes, Nunberg asks &#8220;who&#8217;s responsible when words get misconstrued \u2014 and whether there&#8217;s an irony when a cultural conservative complains that a progressive has been insufficiently sensitive.&#8221;\u00a0 For example, he notes:<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 60px\">&#8220;So if you were an upstanding cultural conservative, you might see something undignified in the McCain campaign&#8217;s reaction to the lipstick-on-a-pig remark. At times it seemed like a send up of radical feminism drawn from a satirical novel by Christopher Buckley or T. Coraghessen Boyle &#8212; the keening indignation, the burrowing for far-fetched meanings and unconscious motivations, and above all the insistence that what matters isn&#8217;t what someone actually says, but the way we take it.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\">wolf\u2019s howl<br \/>\nthe heat of the campfire<br \/>\non our faces<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 60px\">\u2026\u2026\u2026\u2026\u2026\u2026 by ed markowski (Shiki Kukai, May 2007)<\/p>\n<p class=\"entry-body\" style=\"text-align: center\"><a href=\"http:\/\/magnapoets.typepad.com\/photos\/uncategorized\/2007\/04\/28\/haigahoopapril04magna_4.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/magnapoets.typepad.com\/photos\/uncategorized\/2007\/04\/28\/haigahoopapril04magna_4.jpg\" border=\"0\" alt=\"Haigahoopapril04magna_4\" width=\"200\" height=\"181\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center\">lipstick on his<br \/>\ncoffee mug \u2013<br \/>\nsteam rising<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: center\"><span>photo: ARTHUR GIACALONE<br \/>\npoem: DAVID GIACALONE<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong><em>p.s<\/em><\/strong>. For some reason, I feel the need to reprise this disclaimer, made when I complained last year about then-<a href=\"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/2007\/10\/18\/gov-spite-zer-needs-more-eq\/\">Gov. Eliot Spitzer&#8217;s low EQ<\/a>:<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/files\/2007\/10\/golemaneig.jpg\" alt=\"\" \/> <em><strong>I confess<\/strong><\/em>: When it comes to my family and friends, I\u2019m biased \u2014 I expect <em>much more<\/em> from them (<em>e.g.<\/em>, better behavior, reasoning and argument) than from other human beings. The same is true for people with whom I share a political party and\/or philosophy.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Over the last twenty years, I&#8217;ve often professed and confessed that &#8220;the average woman is considerably more mature emotionally than the average male.&#8221;\u00a0 The current campaign season has, however, reminded me of another point I frequently make: &#8220;politics will change you more than you&#8217;ll ever change politics.&#8221;\u00a0 The confluence of the two maxims is on [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":94,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[900],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-9911","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-viewpoint"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p6kP1R-2zR","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9911","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/94"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=9911"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9911\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":12181,"href":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9911\/revisions\/12181"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=9911"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=9911"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=9911"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}