{"id":9475,"date":"2008-06-13T12:22:33","date_gmt":"2008-06-13T17:22:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/2008\/06\/13\/fathers-day-without-dad\/"},"modified":"2011-08-05T14:53:26","modified_gmt":"2011-08-05T18:53:26","slug":"fathers-day-without-dad","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/2008\/06\/13\/fathers-day-without-dad\/","title":{"rendered":"father’s day without dad"},"content":{"rendered":"
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L<\/em><\/strong>ooking for Father’s Day Haiku (or senryu)? You’ll find a few below and more here<\/a>.<\/p>\n

putting on my socks \u2013
\nthat little grunt
\ndad always made<\/p>\n

almost sunset
\nthe weekend dad
\ndrags a sled up the hill<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

\u2026\u2026…….\u2026 by dagosan<\/a>
\n\u201cputting on my socks\u201d – Frogpond<\/em> (XXVIII: 2, 2005); inside the mirror<\/a>: The Red Moon Anthology 2005<\/em>
\n\u201calmost sunset\u201d – Frogpond<\/em> XXIX: 2 (2006)<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<\/blockquote>\n<\/blockquote>\n

<\/a> T<\/strong><\/em>his is the first Father’s Day since my dad died (see “papa g’s night train<\/a>,” Jan. 16, 2008). Over the years, I’ve always felt a little sad for sons and daughters who couldn’t spend Father’s Day with their dads — especially, for my child “law guardian” clients with divorced or separated parents, or the ever-increasing numbers of my Baby Boomer friends, whose elderly dads were dying.\u00a0 Until now, my own worse feeling for myself at Father’s Day has been a little guilt those years I merely sent a card and phoned, rather than driving a few hours to see Papa G.<\/p>\n

This year, Father’s Day brings me the bittersweet pangs of having no living father. A few tears will probably fill my eyes now and then on Sunday. Nevertheless, as he would have wanted, I’m going to try to stress how lucky I was to have Arthur P. Giacalone alive until he was almost 89 years old. [Click for my favorite picture<\/a> with dad (and my brother, on the right), from his 75th birthday in 1994.]<\/p>\n

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boot hill
\none abandoned
\ntoboggan<\/p>\n

[In mem<\/span>., Arthur P. Giacalone<\/a>, who always got us back to the top of the hill]<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<\/blockquote>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Papa G was a jitter-bugger. I’m going to let Louis Prima’s version of Night Train<\/em><\/a> help \u201cbring my daddy back to me<\/a>.\u201d Whether you are a child or a dad, may you have a Father’s Day that is more sweet than bitter.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

funeral dirge \u2013
\nwe bury the one
\nwho could carry a tune<\/p>\n

\u2026\u2026\u2026\u2026\u2026\u2026\u2026\u2026\u2026.. dagosan<\/em> – pending – Frogpond<\/em> (Spring 2008)<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

day of the obit
\ninside his wallet
\nme at eleven<\/p>\n

\u2026\u2026\u2026\u2026\u2026 by Roberta Beary<\/a> – Moonset<\/em> 4:1 (2008)<\/p>\n

afterwords <\/em><\/strong>(June 15, 2008): See Nicholas Dawidoff’s op\/ed piece “The Man Who Wasn’t There<\/a>” (New York Times<\/em>, June 15, 2008)<\/p>\n

Most of my friends who grew up happily with their dads think of Father\u2019s Day as a contrived holiday. It\u2019s the people with paternal shadows for whom the third Sunday in June takes hold. So it\u2019s not surprising, I guess, that those who are missing out on culturally signified occasions \u2014 the loveless on Valentine\u2019s Day; the lonely on Thanksgiving \u2014 are the ones who are most affected.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Nicholas Dawidoff <\/a>is the author of \u201cThe Crowd Sounds Happy<\/a>: A Story of Love, Madness and Baseball,<\/em>\u201d and edited “Baseball: A Literary Anthology<\/a><\/em>” (2002). I hope he has discovered and enjoyed Baseball Haiku<\/em><\/a> <\/em><\/em>(2007), and our prior coverage<\/a> — a great book for a father and son to share.<\/p>\n

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\u201cred hots!\u201d<\/font>
\nfor an instant i\u2019m ten<\/font>
\nand<\/font>
\nfather\u2019s still alive<\/font><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<\/blockquote>\n

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\u2026\u2026\u2026 by ed markowski <\/a>\"infielderF\"<\/font><\/font><\/font><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<\/blockquote>\n

p.s.<\/strong><\/em> Head over to Morden Haiku<\/em><\/a> for the original color photo of this illustrated haiku:<\/p>\n

father’s day
\nthe year’s first potatoes
\nin his old hat<\/p>\n

… by Matt Morden – Morden Haiku<\/em> (June 14, 2008)<\/p>\n

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