{"id":10422,"date":"2008-12-22T12:23:09","date_gmt":"2008-12-22T17:23:09","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/?p=10422"},"modified":"2011-08-05T14:53:13","modified_gmt":"2011-08-05T18:53:13","slug":"nuding-maternalism-beats-nudges-paternalism","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/archive.blogs.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/2008\/12\/22\/nuding-maternalism-beats-nudges-paternalism\/","title":{"rendered":"nudging maternalism beats <i>Nudge<\/i>&#8216;s paternalism"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\">.. <a href=\"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/files\/2008\/12\/momkids1954.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-10420\" src=\"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/files\/2008\/12\/momkids1954-261x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"121\" height=\"140\" \/><\/a> <em>&#8230; from making Christmas happen for her kids . . .<\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right\"><em>.. to sharing Holidays with Great-grandchildren . .<\/em> <a href=\"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/files\/2008\/12\/mamagaddienov07.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-10421\" src=\"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/files\/2008\/12\/mamagaddienov07-300x225.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"195\" height=\"144\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left\">\n<p><em><strong>M<\/strong><\/em>ama G. has followed in her mother&#8217;s loving footsteps for over half a century, continuing and creating holiday traditions &#8212; scraping pennies and dishes; stuffing envelopes and turkeys; embracing changes and children.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center\">\n<p style=\"text-align: center;padding-left: 90px\">\n<p style=\"text-align: center;padding-left: 120px\">Christmas again: <img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.wegmans.com\/images\/ingredientGuides\/produce\/200\/Cardone.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"76\" height=\"76\" \/><br \/>\nshe shops and shops<br \/>\nand chops <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wegmans.com\/webapp\/wcs\/stores\/servlet\/ProductDisplay?langId=-1&amp;storeId=10052&amp;productId=346000&amp;catalogId=10002&amp;krypto=QJrbAudPd0vzXUGByeatog%3D%3D&amp;ddkey=http:ProductDisplay\">cardoons<\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;padding-left: 120px\">.. by <em><a href=\"..\/dagosans-archives\/\">dagosan<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/files\/2008\/12\/blogbanner2.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"119\" height=\"60\" \/> <em><strong>T<\/strong><\/em>he folks at the Sunstein and Thaler <a href=\"http:\/\/nudges.wordpress.com\/2008\/12\/18\/wanted-a-nudge-for-finishing-the-holiday-to-do-list\/\"><em>Nudge Weblog<\/em> tried<\/a> to cure me of my <a href=\"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/2008\/12\/16\/we-need-our-traditional-pre-holiday-nudge\/\">Scroogy holiday procrastination<\/a>, after I turned in desperation last week to the decision-making principles and &#8220;choice architecture&#8221; presented in their book \u201c<em><a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Nudge-Improving-Decisions-Health-Happiness\/dp\/0300122233\">Nudge<\/a><\/em>\u201d (Yale Univ. Press 2008).\u00a0 Readers at their website suggested a new To Do List and strategically-positioned post-it reminders.\u00a0 But it&#8217;s really only the image of Mama G. that finally got me off my balking backside to get Christmas 2008 into gear.\u00a0 Her modeling of constant holiday preparation, between work and daily family duties, and her nurturing of the spirit of the season despite fatigue and the greedy neediness of her young offspring, have left me suitably motivated &#8212; by admiration and obligation.<\/p>\n<p>Clearly, maternal nudging &#8212; that sweet mixture of nature and nurture, example and guilt &#8212; represents the Holiday Decision Tree I needed to stop stalling and start spreading holiday cheer.<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<blockquote><p>too tired<br \/>\nto untangle<br \/>\nchristmas lights<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<\/blockquote>\n<blockquote>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 60px\">\u2026\u2026\u2026\u2026 by Roberta Beary\u00a0<span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Arial\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial;font-size: x-small\"><a href=\"..\/roberta-beary-archive\/\"><span style=\"font-family: Geneva,Arial,Sans-Serif;color: red;font-size: xx-small\"><strong><\/strong><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>That&#8217;s all I wanted to say, as I dive into a final, long day of holiday preparation before heading tomorrow for Rochester, NY.\u00a0 I&#8217;ll be en-joying Christmas with Mama G. and all the other women in my family who always work so hard to make Christmas and every other major holiday warm and loving (and filling) for generations of their children.\u00a0 Of course, I&#8217;ll also bask in the company of many other relatives (young and old), including all the males who are so well-fed and pampered like the little kids we are at Christmastime.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\">I&#8217;m coming, Mama G., thanks for the gentle nudge into Holiday Spirit. <img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/files\/2008\/12\/blogbanner2.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"80\" height=\"40\" \/><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center\">Christmas Eve calamari<br \/>\nNana serves<br \/>\nGrandma\u2019s recipes<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;padding-left: 90px\">\n<p style=\"text-align: center;padding-left: 120px\">&#8230;. by <em><a href=\"..\/dagosans-archives\/\">dagosan<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\" dir=\"ltr\">holiday recipes\u2026<br \/>\nI set a haiku<br \/>\non the backburner<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">\n<\/blockquote>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">how did Santa know?<br \/>\na roll of duct tape<br \/>\nin my stocking<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">\n<p>\u2026\u2026\u2026\u2026\u2026\u2026\u2026. by <a href=\"..\/laryalee-fraser-archive\/\">laryalee fraser<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 60px\"><a href=\"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/files\/2008\/12\/elisabettacatino.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-10423\" src=\"http:\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/files\/2008\/12\/elisabettacatino-142x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"66\" height=\"140\" \/><\/a> .. <em><strong>postscript:<\/strong><\/em> <em>I<\/em>t&#8217;s easy to forget that our mothers and grandmothers were once little children with Christmas dreams and disappointments of their own.\u00a0 A few years ago, my family discovered a family portrait photo of my maternal grandmother, Elisabetta Catino Papagni, with her siblings, circa 1902, when she was still a toddler.\u00a0 That&#8217;s her image, at the start of this postscript.\u00a0 For the first decades of my life, every Christmas was orchestrated and revolved around Grandma Papagni, and both her absence and love are especially felt this time of year.\u00a0 Although she might want to do a thing or two a little differently, I know she would be proud of the way her daughters have carried on and passed on both her recipes and her tradition of holiday love and joy.\u00a0 She always wanted her grandson Davie to &#8220;mangia&#8221; some more.\u00a0 I hope I can earn her holiday blessings each year by honoring her wish to refill my plate often, and then to help wash those plates after every lovingly-made meal.<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<blockquote><p>red envelopes<br \/>\nthe sound<br \/>\nof children\u2019s laughter<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 90px\">\u2026\u2026\u2026.. by <a href=\"\/\/blogs.law.harvard.edu\/ethicalesq\/yu-chang-archive\/\"><span><span><span style=\"font-family: Arial;color: #ff0000;font-size: xx-small\"><strong>Yu Chang<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a> &#8211;  <em>Upstate Dim Sum<\/em> <span><span><a href=\"http:\/\/homepage.mac.com\/gnach\/upds%20folder\/upds\/ds5.html\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial;color: #000000;font-size: xx-small\"><strong>2003\/I<\/strong><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\"><em><strong> p.s.<\/strong><\/em> If you&#8217;re smuggly finished with all your Holiday Prep, and have spare time for celebrating the Winter Solstice, the <em>f\/k\/a<\/em> Gang suggests you treat yourself to viewing the <a href=\"http:\/\/www.haigaonline.com\/issue9-2\/welcome.html\">new edition of <em>Haiga Online<\/em><\/a> (Vol. 9-2), where you will find fine examples of the haiga genre (images combined with linked haiku or similar poems), along with <a href=\"http:\/\/www.haigaonline.com\/issue9-2\/contemporary\/slides\/gd.html\">this one<\/a> by <em>dagosan<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;text-align: center\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.haigaonline.com\/issue9-2\/contemporary\/slides\/gd.html\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/www.haigaonline.com\/issue9-2\/contemporary\/gd.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"273\" height=\"204\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px\">Then, if you have additional time to kill, please ponder this seasonal mystery: <em>Where do all the snow shovels go between winters?<\/em> Why is there always such a big rush for shovels at hardware and home-supply stores after the first major storm each year?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>.. &#8230; 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